Self Preservation or Cherishing others? There are many models of how assertiveness works. Until I began To grapple with the concept of win:win , I always found myself in something of a moral dilemma in balancing the concepts of assertion with the notion of caring for others. Indeed, often the common image of assertion is… Read more
Difficult Conversations
Difficult Conversations Difficult conversations can be tough for all of us – in fact difficult situations are tough. Period. Some of us spend our lives from facing up to them, preferring to walk on by, not get upset and then face the consequences. Others charge at the difficult conversations like a bull in a china… Read more
A Case for Rapport
A Case for Rapport When communicating it is absolutely necessary before you do anything else to establish rapport. Rapport is the same as the foundation of a house – without it everything will collapse. ASSUMPTIONS : Each person is an individual. There are no two people alike. No two people understand the… Read more
Respect At Work
7 Tips for Gaining Respect We may have all come on different ships but we’re in the same boats now. – Martin Luther King Jnr. These tips apply to anyone at work whether they are in a position of authority or not. 1. Have a clear sense of purpose of who you are and how… Read more
A Better Way
The following abridged article is taken from our book, Entitled to Respect . The article in the book identifies how to negotiate effectively in everyday interactions, build long term relationships and achieve results that last. The concept of win:win is central to Assertion, influence and best practice in negotiation i.e. balancing our rights and needs… Read more
Are you Right?
Are You Right? The following abridged article is taken from our book, Entitled to Respect and seems very topical at the moment. Throughout the world and particularly in the Middle East people are claiming rights they have been denied over a period of many years. The Egyptian people’s struggle to have their rights accepted is,… Read more
The things we say to ourselves
The things we say to ourselves “I have seen the enemy and it is within” Rosou The following abridged article is taken from our book, Entitled to Respect. The myriad discussions we have with ourselves has an enormous impact on whether we believe things to be possible or not. We can manage our feelings and… Read more
Let Your Body Do The Talking
Let your Body do the talking This is part of an article taken from our latest book, “Entitled to Respect. The book looks at giving helpful tips and advice to those who want to be more effective at communication and building satisfying, long term relationships at work and beyond…… This section of the article introduces… Read more
Please Hear What I am not Saying
Many of us pretend to be something we are not or fake it to please someone or impress some one else. We may be scared to be who we are in case we are not liked or loved or appreciated for being ourself. Perhaps few of us have the courage to be genuinely yourself bravely… Read more
A Fairy Tale for Today
A Fairy Tale I came across this fairy tale when I first started to appreciate Transaction Analysis (TA). The story has always been a poignant reminder of how, whether we like it or not, we touch the very fabric of other people’s lives by our very presence, in ways perhaps we are unaware of or… Read more