Asking for a pay rise can feel daunting, however it’s an essential skill for advancing in your career and ensuring you’re fairly compensated for what you contribute. With the right approach, you can increase your chances of success – here’s how to navigate this conversation effectively: Step One: Preparation is key. Before scheduling a meeting… Read more
7 Ways To a Successful Life
1. Have a clear sense of purpose of who you are and how you want to be in your life. Write a personal vision statement as the first step in bringing focus to your life. Whether you do this by writing it down or by representing your vision as a drawing/picture, it is important to… Read more
Giving Criticism Assertively
Assertiveness training – GIVING CRITICISM ASSERTIVELY GIVING CRITICISM BADLY INCREASES THE CHANCE of POOR PERFORMANCE CONTINUING Giving criticism about unsatisfactory aspects of performance can be one of the most difficult tasks you have to face. It can be difficult because many people equate performance of the job with their competence as a person. When done badly… Read more
9 ways to manage a difficult boss
9 ways to manage your difficult boss “Life at work is just impossible. My boss is the most difficult manager I’ve ever met! This clown thinks that his only important function is to criticise”. In all likelihood, most of us have had similar thoughts. Some managers do project “compulsive, counter-productive, or just plain odd” behaviours…. Read more
How many to change a light bulb?
We all know the answer to the spurious question: how many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? We all know the answer is none: they have to want to change! Psychologists are not the only ones for whom this is true – it is so for all of us. As a manger… Read more
Self Preservation or Cherishing others?
Self Preservation or Cherishing others? There are many models of how assertiveness works. Until I began To grapple with the concept of win:win , I always found myself in something of a moral dilemma in balancing the concepts of assertion with the notion of caring for others. Indeed, often the common image of assertion is… Read more
What would you be capable of if you had no Fear?
What would you be capable of if you had no fear? Maybe life is an inner roller coaster. It can be fun and scary – both are part of the ride. All too often, however, we feel the fear and are paralysed into inaction; scared to follow our heart and heap limiting belief after limiting… Read more
Respect At Work
7 Tips for Gaining Respect We may have all come on different ships but we’re in the same boats now. – Martin Luther King Jnr. These tips apply to anyone at work whether they are in a position of authority or not. 1. Have a clear sense of purpose of who you are and how… Read more
A Better Way
The following abridged article is taken from our book, Entitled to Respect . The article in the book identifies how to negotiate effectively in everyday interactions, build long term relationships and achieve results that last. The concept of win:win is central to Assertion, influence and best practice in negotiation i.e. balancing our rights and needs… Read more