Assertiveness training – GIVING CRITICISM ASSERTIVELY GIVING CRITICISM BADLY INCREASES THE CHANCE of POOR PERFORMANCE CONTINUING Giving criticism about unsatisfactory aspects of performance can be one of the most difficult tasks you have to face. It can be difficult because many people equate performance of the job with their competence as a person. When done badly… Read more
How To Stand Up For Yourself And Gain Respect
ASSERTIVENESS TO GET WHAT YOU WANT (Part 2) Everybody needs Respect. It’s easier to do anything with anyone when you are held in respect and so difficult without it. Respect comes from within – no one will respect you if you don’t respect yourself. In Part 1 of this article we looked at the part… Read more
9 ways to manage a difficult boss
9 ways to manage your difficult boss “Life at work is just impossible. My boss is the most difficult manager I’ve ever met! This clown thinks that his only important function is to criticise”. In all likelihood, most of us have had similar thoughts. Some managers do project “compulsive, counter-productive, or just plain odd” behaviours…. Read more
How many to change a light bulb?
We all know the answer to the spurious question: how many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? We all know the answer is none: they have to want to change! Psychologists are not the only ones for whom this is true – it is so for all of us. As a manger… Read more
Self Preservation or Cherishing others?
Self Preservation or Cherishing others? There are many models of how assertiveness works. Until I began To grapple with the concept of win:win , I always found myself in something of a moral dilemma in balancing the concepts of assertion with the notion of caring for others. Indeed, often the common image of assertion is… Read more
Touching the Dragon’s Tail
Touching the Dragons Tail When the great library of Alexandria burned, the story goes, one book was saved. But it was not a valuable book; and so a poor man, who could read a little, bought it for a few coppers. The book wasn’t very interesting, but between its pages there was something very interesting… Read more
Difficult Conversations
Difficult Conversations Difficult conversations can be tough for all of us – in fact difficult situations are tough. Period. Some of us spend our lives from facing up to them, preferring to walk on by, not get upset and then face the consequences. Others charge at the difficult conversations like a bull in a china… Read more
Some folks lives roll easy
Some folks lives roll easy Few, if any of us live our lives without some major challenge, mishap, or disaster. Such events test who we are and in this crucible of fire we begin to understand a little bit more of what we are capable. The reactions are myriad. Some of us are crippled others… Read more
What would you be capable of if you had no Fear?
What would you be capable of if you had no fear? Maybe life is an inner roller coaster. It can be fun and scary – both are part of the ride. All too often, however, we feel the fear and are paralysed into inaction; scared to follow our heart and heap limiting belief after limiting… Read more
Respect At Work
7 Tips for Gaining Respect We may have all come on different ships but we’re in the same boats now. – Martin Luther King Jnr. These tips apply to anyone at work whether they are in a position of authority or not. 1. Have a clear sense of purpose of who you are and how… Read more