We all know the answer to the spurious question: how many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? We all know the answer is none: they have to want to change! Psychologists are not the only ones for whom this is true – it is so for all of us. As a manger… Read more
Self Preservation or Cherishing others?
Self Preservation or Cherishing others? There are many models of how assertiveness works. Until I began To grapple with the concept of win:win , I always found myself in something of a moral dilemma in balancing the concepts of assertion with the notion of caring for others. Indeed, often the common image of assertion is… Read more
Touching the Dragon’s Tail
Touching the Dragons Tail When the great library of Alexandria burned, the story goes, one book was saved. But it was not a valuable book; and so a poor man, who could read a little, bought it for a few coppers. The book wasn’t very interesting, but between its pages there was something very interesting… Read more
20 Cage rattling facts about communication
If you are interested and/or involved in communicating with others and want to have the greatest impact you can, you might want to take on board some of what I think are some interesting thoughts about communication. (Phew, that was a very long sentence!) The average person spends approximately 70% of their time communicating with… Read more
What would you be capable of if you had no Fear?
What would you be capable of if you had no fear? Maybe life is an inner roller coaster. It can be fun and scary – both are part of the ride. All too often, however, we feel the fear and are paralysed into inaction; scared to follow our heart and heap limiting belief after limiting… Read more
A Talented Way to Keep Talent
A Talented Way to Keep Talent We are increasingly being asked to develop the talent at middle to senior management in organisations and help develop strategic thinking as a part of their mind set. Traditional management programmes may not stretch, engage and deeply challenge the skills and mindsets of talent individuals the organisation dearly wants… Read more
Beliefs and your potential
Beliefs and Your potential The following abridged article is taken from our book, Entitled to Respect . The article in the book covers how to change and modify those ‘beliefs’ that do not support us, whilst replacing them with beliefs that enhance and encourage our growth, development and success. Frequently people come on our trainings… Read more
Please Hear What I am not Saying
Many of us pretend to be something we are not or fake it to please someone or impress some one else. We may be scared to be who we are in case we are not liked or loved or appreciated for being ourself. Perhaps few of us have the courage to be genuinely yourself bravely… Read more
A Fairy Tale for Today
A Fairy Tale I came across this fairy tale when I first started to appreciate Transaction Analysis (TA). The story has always been a poignant reminder of how, whether we like it or not, we touch the very fabric of other people’s lives by our very presence, in ways perhaps we are unaware of or… Read more
How to be powerful
How to be powerful Power is the ability to influence another person’s behaviour; influence is the effect. Power is a resource; influence is the result of using that resource, and the demonstration of its existence. Authority is the acknowledged right to exercise control, including the control of money and people. Authority arises from the office,… Read more